Today I’m going to make your dreams come true. I’m going to tell you that some of the goals you falling short with are not your fault. It’s the people around you. It’s your significant other, family and friends. You were right all along!
Your success is directly derived from your experiences that you’ve had and created in your life. So, if your inner circle is filled with those who don’t support and encourage you, then you are running an uphill race. At the end of the day, your perspective or outlook on life will come from the perspectives that you surround yourself with. You are the conversations you have, the books you read and the podcasts you listen to.
So, if you are constantly living in a world that feeds into your fears, self-doubts and limiting beliefs over time you will begin to manifest into that person. The person you don’t want to be.
Did you think I was going to let you off easy and allow you to blame your peers? Not quite. It’s your fault for not fixing your situation, you are not the victim here.
What should you do about this? It’s time to start creating clear and concise boundaries for your conversations you will allow yourself to engage in. If you are in the midst of a conversation that isn’t benefiting you, you can simply say, “I’d love to continue talking with you, but I have decided that this is not a topic I would like to discuss further.” If that’s still an issue, politely remove yourself from the situation.
I make it sound easy right? Well, it’s going to take practice. You will have to do this time and time over until it becomes second nature for you. If there are people that have an issue with this, they are not meant to be in your life.
Are you scared of letting people walk out of the door from your life? It’s all good, we all are – it’s human. You still have a choice, deal with your shortcomings or leave the situation. If you want something to change, you have to change something.