“If only I had (fill in the blank).”
Does this sound familiar to you? Is this something your utter under your breath weekly? Daily? Multiple times per day?
I know for me, this is something has gone through my head during the times that I perceive to be stressed.
“If only I had a couple hundred dollars to invest in (x).”
“If only I had someone to help me with (x).”
“If only I had more time to work on (x) project.”
And…when I really want to get down on myself, I’ll mention all three in a row and really just to make sure I take away all my momentum and confidence.
So, what’s the bullshit you tell yourself? What do you perceive yourself needing that you don’t have? What’s holding you back from being where you want to be?
These questions have defined my past year. What’s holding me back? Woof, what a question. A year ago I would have unloaded on this question. It would have been a dream for me to have an outlet to complain about all the circumstances I had in my life that just didn’t let me be “where I want to be.”
Throughout some self-discovery, some with my life coach – Chance Taureau, some through the Tony Robbin’s Unleash the Power Within seminar, I realized that I wanted to create a list of some of the things I have in my life that I am thankful for.
A list that I could look at daily and reassure myself that I am on the right track and doing the tasks that would lead me to my next level. A list to make sure I was doing things on my terms. I look at this list when I start thinking of the life stresses such as health, wealth, family, friendships, business, etc.. and just remind myself how blessed I truly am and recognize that things aren’t happening to me, but for me. Here’s what I got:
- I wake up daily and have a roof over my head.
- I have health insurance.
- I haven’t gone to bed hungry.
- I have all my fingers and toes.
- I share my life with the most important person in the world to me.
- I have a family that loves me unconditionally.
- I have access to the internet through my computer and cell phone.
- I have had the structure in my life to work out five days a week for the past 9 years (Yes, even though all my injuries and set backs, I have worked out five days a week).
- I have friends that allow me to be selfish with my time and willing to make accommodations around the structure I have put into place for myself.
This is just my list. This is what I tell myself when it seems that there are tasks to complete, bills to pay, products to create, people to socialize with, etc… It allows me to keep my life in perspective and remind myself “I’ve made it this far.” Try it out, you may just see how great your life is and that how life isn’t happening to you, but for you.
In the comments below, I would love to hear what you are grateful for and the things you tell yourself when you are facing difficult times. Thank you!